May is a very busy month for our family.
We celebrate 3 birthdays in the month of May alone.
Luckily, because we have twins, that means just two parties and not three.
Big Daddy has tried to institute a system where each child would be given a birthday party every other year. And by tried I mean he’s told me repeatedly only to have it fall on seemingly deaf ears. What can I say, selective hearing goes both ways!
Luckily, since I don’t require him to do much except for show up and help shlep, he takes my selective hearing in good humor. I cannot say I take his failure to hear a screaming baby at 3am in the same humor, but I guess he’s just more evolved—-or maybe he just is more well rested!
At any rate with two parties weeks apart I was rather surprised by what seems to be a growing trend—and not in a good way.
We have the:
Rsvping without Rsvping.
Huh? Yes, this is where you call to Rsvp but fail to actually commit to either coming or not coming. Hence not really Rsvping in the first place. It sounds a little something like this, “Hi, we received your invitation for the party on Saturday. I’m not sure if we can really come or not. Just put us down and if you don’t see us, then you’ll know something came up and we couldn’t make it.”
This is where you either forget to Rsvp and just show up unexpectedly (apparently this even happens at weddings!) or you Rsvp YES, and then immediately put the whole thing out of your mind and off your radar.
Entourage syndrome is where your immediate family or child(ren) is invited to a party and you show up with not only your family or child(ren) but your sister, her kids, your neighbor, 3 nannies and some guy from the parking lot—or something like that. Maybe these people read too many issues of People or In Style but this isn’t a case where your name is on the list as Your Name +++. I don’t care if you roll 2 deep or 10. Show up with who I was expecting or make your own party next time.
Without even going into all the reasons why these trends are distasteful and not something that one should aspire to, let me just say this. If you fail to Rsvp for a party then you need to suck it up with your own crying child as to why they don’t have a party favor bag. Don’t leave me to do your dirty work and above all don’t try to make me the bad guy for your social faux pas.
Anyone else with me?